Welcome to FitMama
FitMama, I know you are like me, in that you want to feel strong, confident, gorgeous, sexy, happy, free. I wake up every morning with that intention for the day and go to bed at night with this in mind.
Our Core Connection Challenge is a regular part of what we talk about in our FitMama Facebook Group where we FitMamas hang out. We do this challenge often in the group as a reminder that this is needed by us daily. Attention. Quiet. Breathing. Connecting to ourselves. Quieting the noise inside us and around us all the time.
The goal of this challenge is to have you connect deeper into your inner core, the muscles that hold up your organs and allow you to do the exercises, workouts and activities in life that you do.
Pelvic Organ Prolapse (POP), Diastasis Recti (DR) and SI joint injuries are very real and will very much negatively affect your life if they aren’t tended to.
These are dysfunctions of the pelvic floor and deep inner core and require attention.
Go see a pelvic health physiotherapist who specializes in the function of the deep core and pelvic floor specifically.
I hurt myself badly pushing too hard to fit into a mom/fitness ideal that didn’t suit me. It didn’t suit me because I just had a baby. In other words, I pushed a human out of my vagina. My vagina is connected to my pelvic floor which is one of my deep inner core muscles.
Organs can fall out through the pelvic floor to create a POP and it isn’t something you want. Your linea alba thins on your rectus abdominis to make space for your baby and this causes a DR. This needs time to heal and almost all women postpartum have some degree of DR after they have a baby.
I hurt my back using an SI joint belt that worked against me due to relaxin, the hormones in my blood stream postpartum. I pinched a nerve and rotated my pelvis and this coupled with the weakness in my core postpartum, I really hurt myself. This gave me almost 3 years of consistent chronic sciatic pain and immobility. Additionally, I had to give up a job I loved as a part time personal trainer while I had my young girls 1 and 3 at home.
Let me tell you from first hand experience. This was horrible.
I was miserable.
I felt like crying every day and every night.
The pain didn’t stop. Neither did my responsibilities. I had a 18month old that I breastfed and lifted in and out of her crib. I had an active 3 year old that I wanted to experience her mom active with her.
I was raging inside and didn’t know how to fix myself so I got sad.
Anyway, long story short…
Connecting to my core, breathing deeply, healing my fear and pain one breath at a time by facing them head on – is what ultimately allowed me to heal.
What are you not facing?
What will connecting deeper to your core through breathing do for you?
Watch this video to breathe with me.
Please join the conversation, I want to hear from you.
Is your mind coming up with reasons why it isn’t what you need?
“I will start in September when things ‘settle down.’”
“I want to have fun, not be deprived.”
“I already know what to do, I just have to do it.”
“I feel scared to share how out of balance things have gotten”
“What if I can’t change?”
“I have been ‘trying’ it’s not my fault.”
“I can’t exercise, so nothing will work anyway.”
“What if it doesn’t work? Why even bother?”
These are all LIES!! Your mind loves to tell you stories that feel believable.
I want to share with you why I KNOW it’s exactly what you need if you are still struggling with:
- Weight loss
- Negative self-talk
- Poor follow through
- Willpower struggles
- Feeling defeated
- Feeling lost and hopeless
- Cycling “on” and “off” the wagon
- Lack of motivation
- Thinking nothing will ever change so there is no point in trying (aka learned helplessness)
You deserve better! You deserve to talk yourself up every day and have your own back.
Are you ready for a treat?
We start when you’re ready.
Get on the phone with me, tell me what’s up and get registered.
Just DO IT!
With love and oodles of respect,
Are you finding yourself stuck and bored with food? Maybe you have become a prisoner of the plan.
Often we can feel guilty or have regret and shame over eating things that weren’t on the plan, and truthfully, the negative feelings will leave us feeling way worse than the food ever would have.
Watch the video for more on that and also do these:
- TUNE IN: Choose your food wisely – by listening to your body.
- TUNE OUT: The old rules. Sometimes foods you thought were “good” were actually causing your problems.
- TUNE IN: Prepare for your self sabotage or old habit patterns by becoming aware of them (write them down).
- TUNE OUT: Forget the excuses or the “should, could, have to” talk and get deeper into WHY you want to eat healthier (or start a new lifestyle habit).
Find us talking more about this and other related topics in our Facebook Community.
See you there,
How are you showing love, compassion and kindness to yourself today? Coming from and staying in this state of BEING #love ❤️is easier said than done (as all things are), but when it comes to ourselves especially, it can feel like moving mountains ⛰
We find it easier to give and receive love from others but when compassion and kindness for ourselves comes up, we have a way easier time beating ourselves up and using words like, “could have, should have, need to, have to and can’t.” These words can sound benign but they undermine us at a deep level. And this is actually most often our default mode.
I hear from FitMamas daily, “I am my worst enemy.” Just because this is common, this does not mean it’s okay!
My daily mission is to be the opposite of that for myself first (pure unconditional love) and by being it, I’m giving you permission to be that too.
Your own biggest supporter, fan and advocate.
To just BE love.
I still have days and weeks where my deep-seated regret, anger and frustration towards me for the back injury that I gave to myself almost 3 years ago brings me to my knees in tears.
Even though I’ve been rehabbing, surrendering and healing, I still feel myself feeling sorry for myself and reacting in a way that doesn’t serve me or those around me.
I’ve been helping countless moms show love to themselves through embracing where they’re at, honouring their needs and rehabbing their core postpartum and though my back still hurts me physically, mentally and emotionally each day, helping others gives me strength.
I can honestly say it’s been the best life lesson I could have created and I am learning to embody my body in a whole new way.
The only words that seem to bring solace on the hard days is “I forgive you Jen.”
Because deep down I know I deserve it.
I know that in admitting this and forgiving myself a little more each day, I can keep supporting others and it will in turn support me in healing my pain.
Thank you for being on this journey with me! I am here to support you to forgive yourself daily for your imperfections. Knowing they are perfect.
Forgiveness has truly been my window to living pain free inside and out. I know it works and it’s the start of something much deeper.
What words to yourself move you into a state of grace, reverence and self love?
Please join us in our Facebook Group where we are sharing mindful self love daily <3
Join us for a 5 Day Core Connection Challenge!
Want to learn to exercise safely (without peeing your pants), feel stronger in your core and feel connected and in control of your body?
Doing this challenge daily for 5 days will give you a deeper understanding of the what and how that go into strengthening your roots.
Want to know what that means? It’s all about feeling good from within. Breathing love into your body and embracing, nurturing and enjoying the body you’re in right now.
Connecting your mind to the deep inner core unit of your body will allow for a transformation you may not have been expecting.
Rehabilitating. Healing. Strengthening.
Wherever on the journey you are at.
Join us in the FitMama Facebook Community to connect and learn more.
See you online!
I am so grateful to introduce to you the Pearl Pull Ups as the new exercise to engage your deep inner core.
Listen to me talk you through it now:
At FitMama we are all about tuning inwards and restoring your core postpartum.
These Pearl Pull-Ups can be done 3-4 times daily for 15-20 reps. Posture is key. Sitting or lying down is a good way to start and then progressing to standing and moving.
Remembering the cousin to the Pearl Pull-Ups is Core Breathing which I recommend daily also. While pregnant and immediately postpartum.
By practicing the Pearl Pull-Ups, you will reinforce the mind-body connection to your core and will be building, with each step and move, a stronger foundation for your whole body.
Tighten your midsection, improve your posture, stop leaking pee and best of all, feel good! Have good sex!
If you haven’t gone yet, please go see a pelvic floor physiotherapist who can check you internally for health of your deep core.
Please join us in the FitMama Facebook Community to join the conversations.
Being a FitMama all starts with Love,
Love your Core.
See you online FitMama,
How is 2017 going for you so far?
I was LIVE in our amazing FitMama Facebook Community talking about self love and it needed to be shared here! Check it out! My top 3 strategies to kick your butt lovingly into gear – daily! All year long.
Want to have a chat about what’s been stopping you from feeling your best? You can book in with me, I’ve opened my calendar for the next two weeks, first come first served https://calendly.com/jenoliver/callme/
After ringing in a new year, it’s easy to focus on the things we still need/want to work on, but today, take time to celebrate your wins!
Not avoidance or repeating daily the same old habits and stories we replay in our heads, but practice.
Why? Because you are SO much more than what you look like, weigh, wear, own, or know.
No guilt, regret, shame, self loathing, comparing, restricting, denial, and so on, you know what your own pattern is.
Who’s up for some more Self Love?!
1.5 cups buckwheat flour
¼ cup ground flax seed
1 tbsp cinnamon
2 tbsp coconut sugar
1 tsp baking soda
2 tsp baking powder
¼ tsp salt
1 cup plain greek yogurt
1.5 cups almond or coconut milk
¼ cup melted coconut oil
non-stick coconut oil cooking spray (for waffle iron)
Mix all wet ingredients (eggs, yogurt, milk, coconut oil) and beat with whisk until smooth.
Whisk together dry ingredients separately then combine.
Stir until combined and smooth (try to not over mix though).
Add to waffle iron and cook for 5-7 minutes depending on iron temp and settings.
Top with berries, bananas, hemp or chia seeds, real maple syrup or other toppings of choice
One of the most common questions I get from FitMamas is “How do I get my body back now that my baby is born?”
The truth is, the answer is far more simple than anyone realizes.
No, really. BREATHE.
Click play and I will tell you all about it.
Please comment and let me know what you think!